The love in a home doesn’t exist without the cultivation and nurturing that goes with it.
The relationship we have as a family is not about blood connections but the friendship we hold in place.Building a grace-filled home is not without the tapering of loose ends, the weaving with grace of ruptured and jagged pieces.
These friendships we share with spouses, siblings, kids or extended family are built on habits. Habits are consistent, intentional attitude and commitment to carrying out the same actions.
Habits in our homes are our choice. If we choose, they can be grace-filled, spontaneous and life building thought processes that translate in our everyday life. Or else if we choose, they can be the very opposite!
Our house rules become habits eventually.
Instead of normal house rules, we should set grace attitudes in our home.
Most of our parenting models are those we got from our parents. The best parenting model we can use to guide our home should be from the Lord.
We want to make rules, but do rules really develop the kind of home we desire?
3. “In this Home, we would Worship”. The secret David had was worship. When a home finds worship as a habit, victories are sure to be a common place therein. A home that worships God is a home that enjoys consistent victories.
Give unto the LORD the glory due unto his name; worship the LORD in the beauty of holiness. – Psalm 29:2.
4. “In this Home, we would Dance”. Another of David’s secret is dance. All too often we allow the pressures of life to weigh us down. We lose our dancing shoes when we fail to see any reason to be grateful. You see gratitude and dance go well together.
Let them praise his name in the dance: let them sing praises unto him with the timbrel and harp. – Psalm 149:3.
5. “In this Home, we would Laugh”. Like medicine, laughter brings refreshing. Make it a habit to laugh. To create a home of love and peace, laugh.
And Sarah said, God hath made me to laugh, so that all that hear will laugh with me. – Genesis 21:6.
6. “In this Home, we would Trust”. Learning everyday to trust the Lord in situations as a family not only grows our faith in God but builds the bond we have as a family.
And they that know thy name will put their trust in thee: for thou, LORD, hast not forsaken them that seek thee. –Psalm 9:10.
7. In this Home we would “Pass it On”. This is the best part of it all: handing these home-building life principles to our kids. Have time within the week to share God’s word as a family. Like Timothy, who was raised by his grandmother and his mother, let us in the same vein encourage our kids to continue in the way of the Lord.
How do habits come into play in our home?
If you were raised in a home where rules kept you in check, truthfully at some time you would have felt those rules were meant to be broken.
If you were raised in a home where rules kept you in check, truthfully at some time you would have felt those rules were meant to be broken.
Most of our parenting models are those we got from our parents. The best parenting model we can use to guide our home should be from the Lord.
Our house rules become habits eventually.
Instead of normal house rules, we should set grace attitudes in our home.
Most of our parenting models are those we got from our parents. The best parenting model we can use to guide our home should be from the Lord.
We want to make rules, but do rules really develop the kind of home we desire?
Here is the thing, with more grace and love we can set house rules which become life-building habits that our kids would enjoy doing and would not love to break.
Below are seven Habits that we can cultivate in our home:
1. “In this Home, we would Love”. Love makes an amazing difference. The whole commandment is wrapped in love. Love God and Love your neighbour as yourself. A home built on God’s Love can never go wrong! Love is the very basis for our salvation, our foundation and our growth. Our kids would learn the true meaning of love through our own love as a couple and as parents.
Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. – 1John 3:16.
2. “In this Home, we would Pray”. Do remember the popular cliché, “A family that prays together stays together”? In the midst of trails, prayer holds us and strengthens our faith. Like Isaac, who prayed for his wife, prayer holds the fragile frame of the family, weaves it tight and keeps it in place (Genesis 25:21).3. “In this Home, we would Worship”. The secret David had was worship. When a home finds worship as a habit, victories are sure to be a common place therein. A home that worships God is a home that enjoys consistent victories.
Give unto the LORD the glory due unto his name; worship the LORD in the beauty of holiness. – Psalm 29:2.
4. “In this Home, we would Dance”. Another of David’s secret is dance. All too often we allow the pressures of life to weigh us down. We lose our dancing shoes when we fail to see any reason to be grateful. You see gratitude and dance go well together.
Let them praise his name in the dance: let them sing praises unto him with the timbrel and harp. – Psalm 149:3.
5. “In this Home, we would Laugh”. Like medicine, laughter brings refreshing. Make it a habit to laugh. To create a home of love and peace, laugh.
And Sarah said, God hath made me to laugh, so that all that hear will laugh with me. – Genesis 21:6.
6. “In this Home, we would Trust”. Learning everyday to trust the Lord in situations as a family not only grows our faith in God but builds the bond we have as a family.
And they that know thy name will put their trust in thee: for thou, LORD, hast not forsaken them that seek thee. –Psalm 9:10.
7. In this Home we would “Pass it On”. This is the best part of it all: handing these home-building life principles to our kids. Have time within the week to share God’s word as a family. Like Timothy, who was raised by his grandmother and his mother, let us in the same vein encourage our kids to continue in the way of the Lord.
When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and thy mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also. – 2 Timothy 1:5.
What faith-building principles do you adopt in your home?
Ifeoma Samuel is an author, blogger and speaker at women’s conferences. She uses her writings to share everyday life stories about God’s immense love, and is the author of My 30 Days Journey To a Fulfilled Life. Visit her blog Purposeful And Meaningful and you can follow her onPinterest|Google+|Facebook
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